Negative Motivation

The use of guilt, shaming, name calling, fear of punishment, or belittling robs the child of self respect.

Overdoing

Doing for the child what they can do for themselves, solving their problems for them, talking for them, making decisions for them, or pampering them leaves the child feeling that they are incapable.

Demanding

Focusing on the negative, setting parental expectations too high, giving the child too much responsibility, and not allowing them to be children leaves them feeling inadequate.

Discounting

Not having time for the child, not asking their opinion, not valuing their contribution to the family, and denying their feelings leaves the child feeling worthless.

Permissiveness

Giving in to the child's demands, not setting or enforcing limits, letting them treat people or property disrespectfully leaves the child feeling insecure and confused.

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